Creator or Victim
11 steps to creating the pain free life you desire
Who do you know that takes full responsibility for all their feelings, behaviors and life circumstances? What would your life look like if you quit blaming others for how you feel?
Imagine how much more fulfilled life would be if you had more self-control over your emotions when unfavorable things happen and you were able to make positive decisions regardless of circumstances. How would it feel like to be in control of your life and know that you are a conscious creator, including creating a pain free body and eliminating that nagging shoulder pain or sciatica that has been plaguing your life year after year?
Research findings by social scientists and psychologists have demonstrated that the belief systems of individuals have a profound effect on health, the mind, and success. Cancer patients who believe that they can heal their bodies are much more likely to go into remission, students who believe that they can do well in school will do well, and people who believe they can succeed in business will succeed. In other words, “They can because they think they can”, and by believing in it, they attract the solutions they need in their life. You heard the saying:” When the student is ready, the master appears”.
Beliefs are assumptions, prejudices, judgments, ideas, opinions, and attitudes through which everything we experience is filtered. Beliefs are not facts, just opinions with expectations attached, which define our understanding of reality.
Most beliefs are inherited from parents, media, education, organized religion, science, and other major institutional structures.
A belief system provides a core set of values on which we base everything we sense, interpret, feel, say, or do. This system defines a set of rules by which we process and store information as it comes through our conscious minds.
Many of our core beliefs are out-of-our-awareness as we take for granted that “that is the way I am” or “this is reality” when we want to justify our beliefs or our actions. Stress is a good example of this process where we, as individuals, have an active role in shaping the stress response.
One of the pervasive beliefs in our society is the notion that we are victims. Victims feel helpless, hopeless, and powerless. What we say is poor me and isn’t it awful, and look at me, I am in so much pain!
We come to believe we are helpless to determine what is best for us and look to others to tell us what is right. Example: “I must seek and follow my doctor’s advice and get that shoulder or back surgery, or else, I’ll be in pain forever!” This notion of powerlessness allows us to play the self-pity game (poor me) and we are then able to abdicate responsibility for living our lives in a way we find satisfying. We can blame others and continually use excuses for not taking charge of our own destiny.
What do you want to be, a Victim or a Creator?
Are you suffering from chronic pain, an overuse injury, fibromyalgia, arthritis, sciatica, hot flashes. Are you losing the grip on your body, gaining weight, feeling hopeless?
Victims are defined as people that things are done to; creators are people who make things happen. Victims believe that life happens to them. Creators believe that they are responsible for creating their lives.
Practical Steps To Move From Being A Victim To Being A Creator
- Stop blaming others for what you are feeling. It is always your choice as to how you interpret events in your life, including the shape you are in and the pain you are experiencing
- Use affirmations such as “I deserve the best life has to offer, and I am willing to move forward and take the necessary actions to change my circumstances.”
- Create 5 positive affirmations out of 5 of your negative thought patterns. Set aside time each day (preferably in the morning) to repeat these affirmations 20 times. Make sure that these thoughts aren’t replaced by negative thought patterns during the rest of the day.
- Visualize what you want. The steps to successful visualization are: a) perceive yourself successfully achieving what you want, b) believe you can achieve your dreams, c) open yourself to all the blessings life offers and d) celebrate your successes.
- Practice an “attitude of gratitude”. Say thank you for all the blessings you receive throughout the day, and be open to the opportunities that come your way.
- Start a Gratitude journal. Before you go to sleep each night, write down in your journal or notepad 5 things that you are grateful for each day.
- Start a Joy journal. List things that make you feel happy. When you are having a bad day go back to your joy journal to re-focus on the wonderful moments in your life.
- Consciously monitor your thoughts changing them from fear-based to joy-based. Remember: The Universal Law of Attraction, is whatever you focus your energy on expands.
- Stand in front of a mirror, or whenever you see yourself in the reflection of a plate glass window, say to yourself, “I am worthy.”
Believe in yourself. Self-appreciation is the foundation for high self-esteem.
And remember, when the student is ready the teacher appears, but when you pray for something, the answers (or the master) do not always come in the shape or form you expect them to.
Stay open minded and willing to learn and know that you have the power to overcome any and every obstacle.
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Written by Batista Gremaud for DrFitnessUSA.com
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